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Alia Ahmed

Alia Ahmed

Psychotherapist

الأسئلة المجابة 47975 | نسبة الرضا 98.1%

Marriage & Family Counseling

Welcome! What kind of problem or issue would you...

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Welcome! What kind of problem or issue would you like to discuss with the therapist?(i.e. Relationship counseling, depression, addiction,etc) Have issues with my spouse in my marriage. Married to17 yes. Problems are from the early days itself. Not yet find a proper solution. Now reached with ultimatum by verbal and physical abuse . Trying to avoid it. But. Ow a day's I could not. My rage could not control. Pls help Have you sought out therapists or counsellors about this before? ...or tried anything else? Yes.we went three professionals. First by the initial session itself stopped, by saying that he diagnosed with out hearing from her. Second by attending three sessions and non availability can't continue. Third complained that not professionally capable to manage the issue by going 4 sessions. Anything else you think the psychologist should know before I connect you? Ya, I am a male 40 yes and she is 41 . We married to 17 yrs . Have one child with 15 yr old. Still at one flat. But frequent wuarrelling on the same stuff and life in a roller coaster. I have a tendency to get easily irritated and annoying, by excessive criticism. I am working. She is not going. But she complaints that due to my falts she could not find job. And I am not caring her enough. Whenever simple things happen all the previous flaws will bring with it. Ultimately my sanity will lose. That will create my mind guilt feeling and subsequent rage.finally it will reach sarcasm and violence. Now the last episode happened 45 days back. Till now could not resolve. I tried to two times. End up by explosion the last by day before yesterday. I fed up. Seriously thinking about get rid off the relationship in minds one part and the other part feelings towards her and my son.

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Alia Ahmed

Alia Ahmed

Psychotherapist

الأسئلة المجابة 47975 | نسبة الرضا 98.1%

Dear Customer,                                                        

Thanks for joining and trusting us, much appreciated!

 

Every problem has a solution and there is nothing impossible, but the accumulation of problems without treatment makes a wall that gets harder every day between the couple.

You and your wife have sought advice from consultants to solve your problems and of course they are providing help, but without making the effort and having the will to get rid of those problems, no one can help you.

So, Sir, make sure that the solution to marital problems is always in the hands of the couple alone. It is your life. If you decide to feel the love and happiness you will find them, but it is a mutual decision that you must make together.

Now, you have problems accumulated from 17 years, and discussing them all over again, deciding who was wright and who was wrong is not going to help at all. It is important that you agree together that you live without problems and that you feel happy so that it will be reflected on your son.

You have to sit together and forget the offenses and the accusations, and you shall agree to forget the problems of the past, start over and make up for what you have missed in life and lost because of your problems. You should agree that in any problem you will control your emotions.

As you suffer from nervous, delay the discussion and enter your room to do breathing exercises until you are relaxed. Then, you can discuss your problems without offending each other because in the end, life is shared.

Do not leave problems without discussing them completely so there are no problems left hanging up to the top whenever there is any altercation between you.

 

Sir, life does not deserve to go through problems and pain, use it to feel happy. If each couple united and considered that they are one entity and not enemies in a battle, all problems will be solved simply.

We wish you the best.

 

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الأسئلة المجابة 47975 | نسبة الرضا 98.1%

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