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أحمد عوض

أحمد عوض

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Mrs umair Our marriage has been four years I m...

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Mrs umair Our marriage has been four years I m very afraid of sex, so much time will be given to marriage but not even once sex. Husband wants to have sex but I do not give the reason I m afraid I say I cry I feel like may be I will die from pain, just four years have passed here, yet the same rate is not there, so why am i afraid why sex does not give sex to husband please tell me why am I doing this I don’t even know my self, it is a question of my life ??

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الرد من العميل

Answer me

إجابة الخبير: Yazan Alhourani

Yazan Alhourani

Yazan Alhourani

Licensed Physician

الأسئلة المجابة 75463 | نسبة الرضا 98.7%

what is your medical condition ?
we dont know if you have tried sexual intercourse with partner before then you stopping having , or just never tried because of fear , if you feel pain when tried before or when you plan to try it , then this medical condition called vaginismus

What is the treatment for vaginismus?

- There are several treatment options for vaginismus, consult a  gynecologist and psychiatrist may be needed 
Usually, the main cause of vaginismus is not clear, and the following treatment options are used:
1. psychiatry sexual behavior therapy
2. vaginal muscle relaxants tools and machines ( directed by doctor 
3. Kegal exercises
How to do kegal exercises :
1. empty your first bladder before starting the exercise 
2. pressure internally on your down pelvic area ( like-peeing situation ) for 10 seconds 
3. relax for another 10 seconds 
4. redo that 10 times at 1 set 
5. do 3 sets daily 
- during the internal pressure phase , breath normally , try to find your pelvic flood muscles and ligaments which you can stress than to strength them 
What are the causes of vaginismus?
1. The most common cause is: unknown
2. Other reasons include: bad sexual practice, bad sexual memories, stress
What are the necessary tests:
1. Clinical examination by the specialist doctor
2. Vaginal examination
3. Psychological evaluation by the specialist doctor

and we will redirect your question to psychology section to advise you regarding your medical condition

إجابة الخبير: أحمد عوض

أحمد عوض

أحمد عوض

اخصائي نفسي

الأسئلة المجابة 9090 | نسبة الرضا 98%

We would like to inform you that the marital sexual relationship also depends on a very important factor which is psychological readiness and  feelings of relief and safety between the two parties. We clearly feel that you are afraid of having the marital relationship with your husband, and that this fear causes you a vaginal spasm, and constriction in the muscles of the uterus, which makes you feel pain during the relationship. And therefore, you suffer from fear of sexual intercourse. If this makes you feel panic and always feel intense fear , you suffer from phobia of sexual intercourse (sexual phobia), which is an intense, irrational and unjustified fear, and the reason may be due to previous sexual assault, anxiety, false and irrational beliefs and thoughts about sexual relationships.
Symptoms:
*Feeling of anxiety and fear may reach the level of intense panic when physically meet each other.
*Feeling of helplessness and lack of integration with your husband.
*Nausea.
*Dizziness.
*Shortness of breath.
*Heart palpitations.
*Excessive sweating.
Treatment:
Psychotherapy by talking with a psychiatrist to start CBT, which is based on determining the type of sexual phobia, and getting rid of negative thoughts about sex.
Treatment by gradually having the relationship by taking the time with foreplay, until the relationship is complete.
Renewing feelings of love to be more vital and to be more comfortable.

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My age is 22

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My age 22Four years will go to marriage, our relationship is till romance. We both love each other a lot but I m afraid of sex. Even the family members are now begging to object that how log will the baby also need sex, not even once, just do not know why I m scared. We have also done medical checkups, we have also done private parts checkups. We both doctors say that everything is normal. No issue of medical point of view. I do not let them do anything,just sat in my mind that maybe I will ache. I m still a virgin today even after marriage, I know this is wrong I understand my husband is very loving caring but how long will she tolerate that too. Please tell what kind of issue is this

إجابة الخبير: أحمد عوض

أحمد عوض

أحمد عوض

اخصائي نفسي

الأسئلة المجابة 9090 | نسبة الرضا 98%

I also told you in the previous answer that you suffer from sexual phobia, or sexual phobia, and you must follow the aforementioned treatments in order to get rid of this phobia.

الرد من العميل

Please tell me the cure of this I m free for this tension

إجابة الخبير: أحمد عوض

أحمد عوض

أحمد عوض

اخصائي نفسي

الأسئلة المجابة 9090 | نسبة الرضا 97.7%

We would like to inform you that psychotherapy by talking with a psychiatrist to start cognitive behavioral therapy, which depends on identifying the type of sexual phobia, and getting rid of negative thoughts about sex.
  • Treatment through the relationship gradually by taking time with foreplay, until the relationship is complete.
  • Renewing feelings of love to be more vibrant and more comfortable.
  • Doing deep breathing exercises, especially before the relationship.
  • Cognitive therapy by modifying beliefs and misconceptions, correcting cognitive notions about marital sexual relationship, and contemplation of the benefits of intimacy that make the marital relationship more vital.
  • Listen the experiences of women who are married to those close, which gives you motivation and comfort.

الرد من العميل

Everyone has explained that family mother friends also understand me, but at that time the same fear and rate may come between me, now many questions are arising on me.

إجابة الخبير: أحمد عوض

أحمد عوض

أحمد عوض

اخصائي نفسي

الأسئلة المجابة 9090 | نسبة الرضا 98%

I understand your feelings and what you are going through, but you must know that the treatment requires an will, determination, and inner desire that does not happen immediately and according to your desire and commitment to treatment, recovery will be faster, so be strong, do not give in, face your fear, the parties that support you, and God willing you will emerge from this case.
If you have another advice, offer it at any time and I will get back to you as soon as possible.

الرد من العميل

I will try my best to compete with my rate because I do not want to lose my husband and family.

إجابة الخبير: أحمد عوض

أحمد عوض

أحمد عوض

اخصائي نفسي

الأسئلة المجابة 9090 | نسبة الرضا 97.9%

By following the instructions and previous treatment and your will, you will overcome this condition, and we are always at your service

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